My life with a beautiful stepdaughter, Brooklyne, a wonderful and energetic little boy named Wyatt, a diva drama queen named Piper and my fabulous husband who helps me navigate our crazy life!

Friday, April 29, 2011

The question of all questions...

I had an interesting conversation tonight and it got me thinking. Who is really right to take my children and raise them should Tom and I both die? I usually try to keep such morbid thoughts out of my head. However growing up I had two parents and at the age of seventeen two became one and I saw how hard it is to raise kids by yourself. This in my mind I consider who is available to me that could raise my kids to my standards. It sounds crass and cold I know but it is important that whoever takes on this task agrees with your beliefs and who will carry on your traditions after you're gone.
There is a long list of people in our life that could and would take Wyatt and Piper should we both leave this earth. The question becomes how do we ask them and are they the right fit. Anyone who knows me well has the knowledge that my family life was turbulent. My mother died of an overdose and my father still wrestles with his own addictions, although I wouldn't really call it wrestling since he doesn't admit he actually has a problem... I've let it go about my past. I'm only focused on our and my children's future. This is about making sure my children never grow up in the world I did. So the question remains...
... Who is right to raise my children should they have to? Who is going to give up part of their life to raise kids that aren't theirs...? And one more question... would they want to?

Friday, April 8, 2011

Speech Delays, Autism, and evals

Things have been going in fast forward around here as far as Wyatt is concerned. What started as him being put in ppcd (preschool program for children with disabilities) for his speech has somehow morphed into evaluations, therapies, and the word autism. We have had educators sit in front of us and say that he has autistic tendencies but to us, his parents we only see an energetic little boy who has trouble communicating... a social delay... yes. A speech delay would certainly contribute to a social problem. Wyatt loves other kids, adults, people in general. He loves being in a crowd and he loves being the center of attention. Transitions are a problem and he is working on them through therapies... this is so hard... how do we help him?? I'm exhausted and scared... so many questions and only partial answers...